tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8943671931238067249.post5313685803231900195..comments2023-09-15T06:13:48.432-04:00Comments on Kirtzono: "Life is what it is......You just have to accept it because you have no other choice." - Stone Cold by David BaldacciSaul Davidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06521203802204671785noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8943671931238067249.post-8716297685988854842008-11-20T16:18:00.000-05:002008-11-20T16:18:00.000-05:00SD-I apologize that I've never thanked you for you...SD-<BR/><BR/>I apologize that I've never thanked you for your blog before. I've been following it almost from the beginning, and have enjoyed the ride.<BR/><BR/>I am a frum, gay guy living in Israel. Out to my family, and friends. I'm struggling to find a place for myself in the Jewish community. <BR/><BR/>My biggest challenge has been struggling with -- not the Jewish Law -- but the Jewish community that insists on excluding their own. The Tradition is so easily malleable (and I say this from the Orthodox perspective) in so many regards (think: agunot, mamzerim, etc) but there is total halachik obstinance with regard to the issue of homosexuality. <BR/><BR/>Thanks again for the blog; I hope it continues to provide you an outlet, and its readers strength. <BR/><BR/>Looking forward to Year Two.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8943671931238067249.post-25163487623864865362008-03-11T10:22:00.000-04:002008-03-11T10:22:00.000-04:00Tanya, I can hear that you and your family are tru...Tanya, <BR/>I can hear that you and your family are truly struggling with what sounds like shocking news. I am sorry to hear that, and hope that this blog gives you the chizuk you are seeking. What is interesting to me in your comments is that you seem very concerned about your parents. Having limited experience, but being as I am a proud family member, I have to say that yes its important to feel for your parents and support them but I think its also important to love and respect your brother for who HE is and for the courage it took him to open up and strength it takes him to face his surroundings daily. Not for whom he was, who you expected him to be or who you imagined him to be, but for whom he IS. This was not necessarily a choice for him, but the fact that he has chosen not to suppress his feelings and has chosen to share his life with someone, and for that matter with you is a huge step. You claim that he does not seem to care about you or your parents feelings, and with very little background about your specific family situation, I beg to differ. It seems like he very much cares, and for that reason has opened himself up and has maintained his relationship with you, despite how you yourselves and not to mention your community must be reacting to his lifestyle. I think in light of this very scary world we live in, life is very precious. Family is something that is not easy to be a part of and even harder to be without. Maybe instead of always worrying about how people will react, what the right thing to have done, or to do is, its time we see and appreciate people for who they are; including their flaws, their amazing character traits and what they have to offer and not so much the clothes they wear, the box they fit into or the flag they wave.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8943671931238067249.post-79215501691580867512008-03-04T17:41:00.000-05:002008-03-04T17:41:00.000-05:00My younger brother recently announced to my parent...My younger brother recently announced to my parents that he was bisexual and that he has been this way for the past three years. My parents are yiras shomayim irlich people. Needless to say, they feel that they have failed; are at a loss of what to do and how to react. Amazingly, they have not stopped davening and are still so full of hope that my brother will iy"H one day lead a normal life.<BR/>They did go to a PFLAG group but were amazed at how all the parents in attendance were so accepting of their son's status and new way of life.<BR/> I recently read an article: http://members.aol.com/orthogays/moment.html<BR/>which talks about trying to lead a normal way of life with siyatta di shemaya.<BR/>I don't know much about this struggle and how difficult it would be for a man to overcome and live with these urges.<BR/>My brother is defiant, obstinant and not concerned at all with how much this is hurting my parents or me. He does not want to think about the future and of the prospect of raising a family. He is enjoying the here and now with his partner. I would like to get in touch with someone via email who can share advice and chizuk.<BR/>ThanksUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03896998238791091952noreply@blogger.com