Monday, June 6, 2011

"No parent should have to bury their child." - Theoden

The first entry of this blog was titled "A Family Changed Forever."  I wrote about how our dreams have been shattered and the change that has hit our family.

But everything pales in comparison to the loss of a child.  Over the last few days we have been mourning as friends, as family and as a community, as we were struck with the news of the untimely death of a 28 year old man, just three weeks before his wedding.

There are no answers.  There are only questions.

It is the ultimate test of faith.

Over the last 12 months I can count at least five times that I personally know, of a parent who had to bury their child .

It is not natural.

On another note........

I have not had anything to write since February when I discussed the establishment of a parents' group.  I have been asked by several parents about this group.  Unfortunately, I was not asked nor was I involved with setting up this group.  Before it got off the ground, I suggested that it be held under the banner of "Kirtzono" but those who were involved did not agree.  As such, it was set up as a closed parents group.  Its membership numbers 19, including my wife and I.  There have been only a few discussions and the last time anyone wrote into it was two months ago.

The google group is called Temicha and you have to be invited.  Please send an email to rabbi.sarna@gmail.com.  He will send you an invitation to join the group.

Ironic? No?  These young men and women want to be heard and accepted and we parents are hiding behind a google group.

Boy am I going to get @#%& for this one.

Be well and let's hug our kids.  Who knows what's in store for any of us.

Saul David

6 comments:

frustratedMOmom said...

I am a mother of a teen who came out to us (his parents) a few weeks ago. We are Orthodox. We have been very lucky to have received lots of support from some wonderful individuals, for which we are very grateful. I am very frustrated by the lack of a Jewish support group/network. I will certainly join the google group (I had been told it exists, but did not have a way to contact it), but it sounds like it is not very active. If we are talking about 5-10% of the kids, why all the secrecy? And shouldn't the siblings have some understanding/support too? Assuming it is OK with my son, I am willing to be open and discuss issues and seek and (with time)provide support for others. Is there any way out of the hiding?

Saul David said...

That's what this blog has been about. There is no support from the community. And quite frankly, I have not seen much from "Temicha", which is the name of the google group.
As I have told other parents over the last few years, if you just want to talk to either me or my wife, send me a private (and it could still be anonymous) email to kirtzono@gmail.com. I will give you our personal phone number.
SD

Anonymous said...

With so much going on, your blog has been quiet for more than 6 months. Have you abandoned it?

Saul David said...

Sorry. I have not abandoned it. I just needed a bit of a time-out. One of our daughters got married in November and things have been hectic, in a good way for the better part of this past year. I have things to talk about. Thanks for reading.

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